
caught the measles, it was potentially fatal. If a child cried a lot, good
parents were known to give their children alcohol or drugs to quiet them.
Some children were even given laudanum, an opium derivative, to keep
them calm and quiet.
Because mothers had almost total supervision of their children, they
were deemed responsible for the outcome of their children. If a child was
too noisy, too lazy, or did not behave as the community expected, it was
the mother’s fault. The Victorian ideal that the woman was responsible
for the family’s morality continued in the first decade of the century.
Unless a girl was born into a wealthy family, she was expected to help
her mother with her younger siblings as well as the household chores.
Depending on where the family lived, a girl might attend some school. If
a school was available, some girls would attend only when they were not
needed at home. Most families did not think that girls needed as much
education as boys did. Many women, especially in rural areas, received
very little education.
Girls born into urban families might have no education at all. If they
were old enough, some girls would stay at home and care for their siblings
and keep house while their parents were working. In some cases, children
could earn more than their parents did, so both girls and boys would get
jobs as soon as they were able to do so. Most of these jobs lasted ten or
more hours a day and consisted of difficult work that adults did not want
to do or could not do.
Generally speaking, most boys were raised with the belief that they
needed to learn the skills necessary to be a wage earner. Some boys would
become apprentices, some would work on farms or at unskilled labor, and
some, if the family could afford it, would attend school. Girls, conversely,
would learn the domestic skills they would need when they became wives
and mothers. Many girls, however, would learn skills such as needlecraft
or singing, but they rarely learned the skills necessary to run a household.
Many marriages suffered when a young wife was suddenly faced with the
need to cook, clean, and manage a household.
Urban children of the working-class poor, which included most of the
newly arrived immigrants, usually started working as soon as they were
old enough. Many children worked in dirty, dangerous jobs that needed
someone small or agile, and children were prime candidates. Many of
these jobs were cleaning up after the older adult workers. Children, for
example, would take away the used bobbin spools in mills and return with
full bobbins so the adults could continue their work. They worked long
hours and got little pay. What money they did earn they brought home to
their families.
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