Defence
As Milton Bennett describes it, this is the stage where we wake up and exclaim:
“Oh my God, they’re different!” We still don’t fully accept the differences,
but we’re forced to face the fact that they exist, and we know we can’t ignore
them. The response to this awakening is invariably: “Circle the wagons and
prepare to defend!” We dive into familiar procedures and apply them rigidly.
This creates a real crisis: in this mode we can get very judgmental and criticize
people for being lazy, disorganized or chaotic when they’re simply approaching
things in a different way. Britons who commit this error often become
aggressive in meetings, and mutter jokes and insults among themselves to
relieve their sense of frustration. This is extremely dangerous. Firstly, it
reinforces a negative mindset. Secondly, someone always overhears you and
they just know you’re talking about them. The trick, and it isn’t an easy one,
is once again to stand back, observe, and don’t get involved in your own
emotional turmoil. The value of Milton Bennett’s analysis is that it gives you
a tool for exploring your own response. If you can say to yourself, “Yes, it’s
just a defence mechanism,” you’re well on the way to Stage 3 – minimization.
Minimization
You meet this reaction an awful lot in international business. People who use
it are those who don’t want to take culture on board. Heard these recently?
• “I take people as I find them”.
• “People are people”.
• “There’s no difference ultimately. We’ve all got mortgages and families.
Business is business, after all”.
Yes, it is, but it doesn’t hide the fact that how most Indians see relationships
with their family and their bank is very different from the way most Britons
or North Americans do. An Indian might have family responsibilities
extending to more than 20 people, yet have no other assets than his monthly
salary. He might still be living with his family at 36 years of age, and have to
ask his father’s permission to go out at night. His marriage may be arranged
between his and his in-laws’ families. Not all Indians live like this, and given
the speed at which the Indian economy is developing, things will change fast.
But it illustrates that even in the areas that we think make us similar, very
different conditions may apply.
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